
We are busy trying to meet other people’s expectations that we may end up living someone else’s life.

One reason why we feel stressed is we are worrying too much about what other people say about us. Focus on being what you love rather than being loved Beyond that, don’t compare yourself with others.Ĥ. So learn something from others, set your goals, and refine your actions. But this will only make the next failure more painful.


Look at the results, get feedback to refine your actions, and then focus on the actions.Ģ. The role of results is to give you feedback to refine your actions, but no more than that. Instead of worrying about results, spend your time thinking about what to do and how to do it. So you should focus on something you can control instead, and one thing you can certainly control is your actions. Even worse, there is not much you can do about it since you can’t control the results. Here are some tips on how to do it so that you can minimize stress and be content with our life:įocusing on results is a sure way to experience the ups and downs of emotional roller coaster. Our mental condition goes up and down like a roller-coaster. But when we fail, we will feel very disappointed.

When we succeed, we will feel very happy or even ecstatic. While there may be other causes for such situations, I believe one important cause is unrealistic expectations.Įither they come from ourselves or from other people, unrealistic expectations cause us to ride mental roller-coaster. Things can go wrong and not go as expected. Sometimes we may feel stressed or even depressed in life.
